Friday, March 8, 2013

Jada Pinkett Smith: "Why Are My Old Ass Manless Girlfriends Going Gay?"

I wasn't planning to blog today but this nonsense needs to be addressed. On Wednesday, Jada Pinkett-Smith posted the following on her Facebook page...

Before I begin...I want to make one thing clear. It's important that you know that I believe love comes in ALL forms. I believe a person should love WHOMEVER...HOWEVER they choose. But...I do have a question.

In the last month, three women, in their 40s, coming out of long term relationships with men have confided in me that they now feel that their last resort for companionship is that with a woman. These are women who have never engaged in or even desired to be in intimate relationships with other women. Now these women feel as though they have no other option. It seems as if there is a spike in same sex love all around. What is changing in which how men and women are relating to one another, that is creating same sex love as a LAST RESORT for heterosexual women?
Here is my response...

Dear Jada (and confused chicks around the world):

Your trifling ass friends (or whoever they are to you) make me sick! I truly resent people like them who suddenly make a CHOICE to date members of the same sex as some sort of "last resort." Unlike your friends, LESBIANS (and TRUE HOMOSEXUALS) cannot move the goal post with our sexuality. We don't get to decide when, if, and why we are GAY. Those of us who ARE truly gay didn't decide to be this way. Being in a heterosexual relationship is not an option for us. So, the thought of possibly being someone's "last resort" or "experiment" or "companion until the right man comes along" is off-putting, offensive and repulsive.

This type of bullshit almost makes me HATE that homosexuality is becoming more and more accepted by society. I know that seems like a strange thing for a lesbian to say, but try looking at it from my perspective. 

"Going gay" has become a trend for far too many people, who in all honesty are either bisexual, bicurious, confused as hell or lonely like your friends. These people often misrepresent themselves to TRUE homosexuals and society in general. They pass themselves off as something they are NOT. 

From the outside looking in, you say to yourself, "They can turn their gayness on and it must be a choice." When in reality these folks are FAKING the funk. They do not represent us TRUE homosexuals.

Twenty or thirty years ago your friends, despite their issues with men, would have NEVER thought about "going gay" when faced with the possibility of being manless and alone. Instead, they would have stayed single while patiently waiting for Prince Charming. Many of them would have gone to church and PRAYED for a "good" man to come their way. While this was taking place, true homosexuals were either downlow and stuck in the closet or out and proud, but shunned by society.

Even though you did not mention the race of your friends, I can already conclude they are black based on the crap I see with my own two eyes. Black women, young and old, are single, depressed and lonely as hell. I get it and I sympathize with black women. It's hard to be a black woman period. It's probably ten times harder when you are dealing with a race of men who collectively ain't shit! Personally, I don't believe black men are worth the energy. This world is FULL of men and black women (American black women) are ONLY 6% of the U.S. population. Get out there and meet some of those men!

It might be difficult to meet a man if you're middle age. The older you get the harder it is to find a mate regardless of your sexuality (believe me I know). Your friends probably believe it's easier to get along with a woman than a man. They probably think women are more agreeable, likable and sensitive to their needs than a man can ever be. They probably think being with a woman will prevent stress, abuse and heartbreak. Nothing is further from the truth. 

Women fight, cheat, steal, hurt, manipulate and betray just as good as men (if not better). Women tend to be catty. We can be moody. We tend to wear our emotions on our sleeves. Relationships with women tend to be more emotional than sexual. Giving your girlfriend some coochie won't make her forget her anger and pain as easily as it would a man.

To make a long letter short, turning to members of the same sex is NOT the answer. Unless you're planning to hook up with another manless lonely woman, a bisexual or a confused chick I'm pretty sure most lesbians will give you the *side eye* if you approach them with this mess. Stick to the rivers and the lakes that you're used to or start fishing in rivers and lakes with multiple RACES of fish.


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