Sunday, December 16, 2012

The Politics Of Black Women's Hair

Sometimes I think I underestimate my intelligence. I say that because whenever I visit blogs written by SOME black people I feel like a genius in a room full of idiots. Seriously...I honestly feel that way. I don't know if I'm more enlightened than the average African American or what, but critical thinking seems to elude the black masses on the internet. I find this to be especially true amongst black men. Answers that should be obvious go right over their heads in most cases. 

You would think black men would understand black women better than other races of men understand the women of their racial group. Why? Because black men are almost solely raised by black women. However, this doesn't appear to be true. Either they are purposely stuck on stupid or they lack the intelligence to understand black women overall. 

All over the internet I keep reading comments from black men who cannot understand why black women relax their hair. Many don't understand why black women rock weaves and wigs. Almost all of them point to self-hatred as the ONE AND ONLY reason black women do any of the above. It hasn't dawned on these men that maybe...just maybe...there is more to the politics of black women's hair than self-hatred (and honestly I find it hilarious that black men would even criticize another group from supposedly hating themselves). 

Let me break it all the way down...

I'm not a fan of weaves and relaxers myself. Anyone that reads my blog should know I LOVE natural black hair. I currently rock an Afro. There is nothing more beautiful to me than a lovely black woman with a head full of natural black hair. While I obviously have a preference for black women with natural black hair I wouldn't turn away a black woman simply because she rocks a weave and relaxed hair. A fine woman is a fine woman to me. As long as she meets most of the things on my list I'm down for dating her.

Would I prefer black women to rock their natural hair? Yes. 

Do I feel it's my right to bash black women for rocking their hair the way they want to rock it? No. 

Do I sympathize with black women for the shit they go through involving their hair? Yes.

Now let's talk about the politics of black women's hair...

Here is the thing black men don't seem to get: Black men DO NOT provide for black women. They do not produce LEGITIMATE economic opportunity for themselves OR black women. When it comes to black women's hair the white man's opinion often holds more weight. Why? Because black women are dependent upon white men and white corporate America for jobs! Therefore, black women are going to conform to a European standard of beauty if it means putting food on the men, their opinion, claims of self-hatred be damned!

When black women are rocking our natural hair many of us hit a brick wall in our professional careers. Don't believe me? Just take a look at Rhonda Lee (the woman pictured above). Rhonda Lee was fired from her job as a meteorologist in Shreveport, Louisiana because she responded to an ignorant racist who criticized her natural hair on the station's facebook page. 

The racist wrote the following: 
“the black lady that does the news is a very nice lady.the only thing is she needs to wear a wig or grow some more hair. im not sure if she is a cancer patient. but still its not something myself that i think looks good on tv. what about letting someone a male have waist long hair do the news.what about that.”

Ms. Lee responded with the following:
“Hello Emmitt–I am the ‘black lady’ to which you are referring. I’m sorry you don’t like my ethnic hair. And no I don’t have cancer. I’m a non-smoking, 5’3, 121 lbs, 25 mile a week running, 37.5 year old woman, and I’m in perfectly healthy physical condition.

“I am very proud of my African-American ancestry which includes my hair. For your edification: traditionally our hair doesn’t grow downward. It grows upward. Many Black women use strong straightening agents in order to achieve a more European grade of hair and that is their choice. However in my case I don’t find it necessary. I’m very proud of who I am and the standard of beauty I display. Women come in all shapes, sizes, nationalities, and levels of beauty. Showing little girls that being comfortable in the skin and HAIR God gave me is my contribution to society. Little girls (and boys for that matter) need to see that what you look like isn’t a reason to not achieve their goals.

“Conforming to one standard isn’t what being American is about and I hope you can embrace that.

“Thank you for your comment and have a great weekend and thank for watching.”
Ms. Lee is now unemployed. Black women are damned by black men for rocking a relaxer and a weave and they are damned by white people for rocking their natural hair!

Black women are pressured to conform to an European standard of beauty largely because they are dependent on whites for survival in this country...whether black men want to admit it or not. Admitting this little fact probably brings shame upon black men, which is why they would rather scapegoat "self-hate" as the MAIN/SOLE reason why black women rock weaves and relaxers. It's probably hard to admit your race of women is dependent upon another race of men for economic opportunities because you, as men, haven't created those opportunities for them! So, they ignore this FACT and point to self-hate. 

Now don't get me wrong. I do believe self-hate plays a part in SOME black women's love for relaxers and weaves. However, I don't for one second believe this holds true for the MAJORITY of black women. Self-hate to me looks like Michael Jackson who, last time I checked, was a black man. Self-hate doesn't look like black women who press/relax their hair and rock weaves. The majority of black women rock relaxers for the following reasons:
  1. Pressure to conform to the European standard of beauty.
  2. Because that's what they want (duh!).
  3. Because that's the current style (and yes, I will admit sometimes the shit does look ridiculous and turn me off...ex. the multiple colored weave)
  4. For some...that's all they know (meaning they've had relaxed/straightened hair since they were children) and therefore they may not be comfortable rocking anything else. 
I don't honestly care what anyone thinks about my hair. I rock the natural and I'm proud to rock it! If I had to pick between a job and my hair I would pick my hair each and every time. However, I understand the same may not be true for other black women.  It would be nice if black women could be ourselves without everything and everyone judging us. It would be nice if black men made a half-way decent effort to understand the struggles black women face with their hair, the European standard of beauty and the politics behind their hair.

Kudos To White Women: Y'all Know How To Recognize Dumbass Niggas When You See Them!

Don't know how I missed this story, but in 2006 legendary singer Lou Rawls died of cancer. I'm not a Lou Rawls fan, but he did make some good songs. When he died I was still in college and because I'm not a fan I didn't follow the family drama that erupted after his death. 

A few years before he died, Lou Rawls met and married Nina, the lady in the above picture. The two of them met on an airplane where she was a flight attendant. They married shortly AFTER Lou Rawls found out he had cancer. Somehow or the other this woman managed to convince Lou Rawls old ass to adopt a child (see the picture above). Needless to say this didn't sit well with SOME of Lou Rawls' children. His daughter, Louanna Rawls, who is clearly the product of the swirl, became the most vocal of the group....

By all accounts Louanna tried to convince her father not to marry Nina or adopt the child. I'm guessing shit must have hit the fan shortly before Lou Rawls died because Nina left this voicemail on Louanna's phone...

Click this LINK.

If you're like me chances are your mouth was hanging wide open as you listened to Nina's voicemail. The woman admitted she was on some gold digging nonsense. She told Louanna that she was taking it all and everything was in her name. She called Lou Rawls a dumbass and said he shouldn't have married her. If I were Lou Rawls' daughter I would be mad at my father and the gold digging trick!

Black men think with their dicks. It doesn't matter if they are rich or poor. In general they lack common sense when it comes to sex and non-black women. And no I'm not against interracial relationships of any kind. I don't have a dog in this fight. Black men don't mean a damn thing to me because they are not in my dating pool. I'm simply calling a spade a spade. When it comes to non-black pussy black men are the stupidest people on the face of the planet. 

Successful black men will ask a black woman for a prenup with lighting speed, but they have a completely different standard for non-black women. They will call black women who expect a black MAN to provide and protect a gold digger quick. These same men will excuse a non-black woman for having the SAME standards because that's part of their culture (i.e., the men protect and provide). 

Black men know they cannot half step with non-black women because those women come from a culture that promotes men having their shit together. He has to be on top of his game and bringing in enough money to support her and their family. The same doesn't appear to be true for black American culture. In black American culture if a black man simply has a job and doesn't hold a criminal record he is regarded as a "good" black black men. Mind you this man can have a G.E.D., a fucked up anti-social personality and be physically unattractive, but because he achieved what other races of men just do (i.e., get/keep a job and no criminal record) he considers himself a "good" catch.

Most black women know this double standard is a way for black men to save their egos/pride/manhood because most of them are NOT successful beyond the bare minimum. Black men know they aren't in a position to attract gold diggers. The average black man in this country makes 35k a year or less. Instead of admitting this fact they try to shame black women for expecting them to BE successful beyond the bare minimum. They try to shame black women for expecting them to have a college education and a job that can support an entire family (in this world that's about 50k a year or more). For this expectation black women get the gold digger label.

I'm sure you're heard comments from broke niggas accusing black women of being gold diggers. I mean really...what kind of gold are black women hoping to discover from the poorest group of men on the face of the planet???

Like I said, black men call black women gold diggers in an effort to save face.

Because of their double standards REAL successful black men are easy prey for WHITE women. If I were a pretty young white woman looking for a come up I would target rich black men. All you have to do is give them some pussy and pop out 2.5 kids. At that point you're set for life! After the last child comes along divorce his ass and take the kids, the house, the dog and the loot with you back to your community! Marry yourself a white man and live happily ever after on your black ex-husband's dime.

I honestly believe the black community would be in better shape if BLACK WOMEN were the millionaire rappers, athletes and entertainers. Why? Because the money would stay in the black community if black women controlled it. Black women are the primary caregivers of black children. Our resources are likely to go to those children. Our resources will trickle down to our children, and not a completely different community if divorce occurs. If we divorce we still keep our resources and possibly some of his. Divorce doesn't financially damage women the same way it does men. In short, black female millionaires are far more likely to keep their resources "black" than black men. 

Just think about it. Look at O.J. Simpson. Here is a black man that married a black woman and had three children with her (one drowned in the family swimming pool). For years this woman criss-crossed the country with him while he was a professional athlete. She supported his ventures and his career....

Here is a picture of their family....

OJ Simpson threw Marguerite and their family straight under the bus for Nicole, who was a teenager when they met. From what I've read, OJ Simpson and Marguerite had a bitter divorce. She had to practically beg for alimony and child support. Meanwhile, OJ bought Nicole's family a fucking car dealership! He sent Nicole's sister to community college. He helped get Nicole's piss poor family out of poverty. Now just think of the mental damage this shit probably had on his kids with Marguerite! Their father had no issue at all ditching them and their mother while financially supporting Nicole and her family.

When things hit the fan and OJ was accused of killing Nicole her family threw OJ's ass straight under the bus. Nicole's sister, the one he sent to community college, wasted no time calling OJ's stupid ass evil, a cheater, a wife beater etc.

While he was on trial, Marguerite DEFENDED OJ. She said he never raised a hand to her. In every interview she did Marguerite defended OJ. 

After the trial was over OJ moved to Florida and became a pariah. His old white friends ceased being his friends. They turned their backs on him. Everyone except OJ knew he was the most hated black man on the face of the planet.

Shortly before he was set up and sent to prison OJ and his oldest daughter, Arnelle (pictured above) got into a physically altercation. Arnelle was pissed off with OJ and his coke head white girlfriend, who was blowing money like there was no tomorrow while her mother, Marguerite, was working at Wal-Mart. 

Arnelle snapped and rightly so! 

This is a young woman that watched helplessly as her father abandoned her mother for a white woman. She watched as he treated her trashy family like gold. She watched as those same people turned their back on him and walked away with the resources OJ GAVE THEM. She watched as her mother struggled financially while OJ jumped from one gold digging white hoe to the next. She watched as said gold digging white hoes threw OJ under the bus when he hit rock bottom (the last of which I saw on Good Morning America trying to sell a book in which she details the abuse she supposedly suffered from OJ). 

This story has a happy ending. Supposedly Arnelle has been collecting OJ's $20,000 a month pension check. There was a report some time ago that his house in Florida was under foreclosure because Arnelle stopped paying the mortgage. Arnelle probably said the hell with OJ and his house. She's probably using OJ's money to take care of her mother! There is no way in hell my mama would be working at Wal-Mart if I were getting $20,000 a month. This is compensation for that family's pain and suffering. OJ's inability to control his dick caused them enough grief to last a lifetime. This whole ordeal never would have happened if Marguerite was the individual holding the loot.

Anyway, I just thought this Lou Rawls' situation was incredibly sad, but I don't personally feel sorry for Lou Rawls or his descendants. He got caught up with the pussy and they, his children, paid the price.

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