Sunday, August 16, 2015

My Response...


A week ago I received this email...

Hi,
I am not a writer so I wanted to reach out to someone who is. I was hoping you would consider a story about how black lesbian women do not support their own.

Did you know that out of all the black lesbian web series that are very popular right now, NONE of them have ever raised more than 3K for a crowdfunding to keep making their shows. The even crazier part these shows like Studville, Between Women, If I Was Your Girl, each have over 30K followers of their youtube stations. They run crowdfunding campaings and the same women who complain about there being nothing for black lesbians in the media, are the same people who won't donate 5.00 to a campaign.

right now an author by the name of Skyy is running a campaign to turn her first book into a feature film. Her book series is very popular in the black lesbian community, just check out the reviews on amazon. ON top of that she has two very popular black lesbian entertainers set to star in it. BUT the campaign has been running for almost a month and she's just now hitting 10 percent on the campaign. It's sad. So So Sad. Even a lot of the reviews of her books have people saying "oh you should make this a movie"

I don't have a voice. I don't have a platform to address this so that's why I am pitching this to you and others. Something needs to be said and people need to hear this. It's a terrible thing that we can't support our own but white lesbian's get sponsorships and can surpass their funding goals just by word of mouth and support.

I hope you will consider writing about this.
My response...

I feel your pain. However, I have been on both sides of this situation. I've been the creator/artist and I've been in the audience watching some of these works. So, I think I can speak on this issue from both sides...

As an audience member...

The shows you listed all suck! 

I have tried to watch all of them and I just couldn't get into them. Not only do I find them stereotypical and mediocre, but I'm turned off by the overwhelming portrayal of the Stud/Fem gender roles displayed in these shows. I often feel like I'm watching a straight couple while watching this dynamic play out because so often I find that the writers and actors are taking their cues from black male popular culture. I hope that makes sense. It's kinda hard to explain, and to be honest I don't feel like getting into it. 

When watching black lesbians I expect to see TWO black feminine women together. I'm not expecting to see a chick who looks, talks, and acts like she just stepped out of an episode of The Wire. I'm not expecting to see the same stereotypical behavior black women have been complaining about for years in black men portrayed by black women. 

To put it plainly, I want to see this: Fem/Fem....not this....Stud/Fem.  

Unfortunately, I appear to be in the minority. 

I won't even go into a rant about the dialogue, production quality, and overall aesthetics of these shows. They kinda speak for themselves. 

As an artist/creator...

Black women are a hard group to please. I too have found myself frustrated when trying to provide entertainment for black lesbians. One of the main reasons I fell back on Sweat is because of all the comments I got that ranged from "Why can't this character be more like so and so?" to  "This simply isn't believable." It reached a point where I said fuck it

I'm no longer willing to cater to black women/lesbians. Honestly, it's not worth the time, money, or effort. I realize you can't please everyone. So, why break your back trying to please such a small toxic demographic (yeah I said it)?

In the 30 years I've been on this earth I have come to see that black women as a collective are not a happy group of people and maybe we are entitled to feel that way given all the shit we go through in this world. However, I have to be honest, I'm no longer interested in putting my money into this demographic. The rewards are small and the payoff is minimum at best. 

Perhaps this is something that the network executives know that we like to ignore. Catering to this small extra critical demographic is a money pit. It's like throwing money into the bottom of a well. 

On the flip side of all this, black women aren't obligated to support other black women simply because they are black. If a product doesn't appeal to me I'm not going to buy it. No amount of shame, pro-blackness, or "We are in this shit together" is going to make me buy what doesn't interest me. I'm sure some black lesbians feel this way about my work....which is their right....just like it's my right to cut my losses and expand to a bigger demographic. 

So, my suggestion to all those black women who find themselves angry due to the lack of support from black women, is cut your losses and move on to "others." Your ideas may not find the support in your community, but there may be others who appreciate your work.

Saturday, August 1, 2015

My New Baby...Louie!


Louie



This is my new dog Louie! He was born July 1, 2015. He is golden retriever. I bought him from a breeder. He is currently still with the breeder, but he will be coming home to me on August 22, 2015. I'm so excited. 

Here is a break down of what's been happening in my life...
  1. I turned 30 years old....*Sad Face*
  2. I befriended a self-made black millionaire after purchasing a used book on Amazon and discovering his phone number in that book. That self-made black millionaire is Joe Dudley...of Dudley Products...one of the great titans of black hair care.
  3. I returned from my world trip. 
  4. I've been house shopping. I'm finally ready to buy my first home. 
  5. I purchased Louie. 
  6. I did something I swore off...I got a job. I'm an insurance underwriter now. 
  7. I'm still thinking about asking Sapphire to marry me. She's a wonderful woman. 
And that's about it!

Wednesday, July 8, 2015

A Heated Debate

A very nice looking couple


I'm currently in England. I'm on my tour of Africa with a few European countries sprinkled in the mix. Tomorrow I will be in the Netherlands and then Paris before heading to Ethiopia. 

I've been in England for two days. Yesterday I hooked up with a friend who is currently studying abroad in England (She's getting a PH.D in English literature). Anyway, me and this friend met at a deli. We sat and talked for about an hour. In that time I disclosed that I'm thinking of asking my girlfriend (Sapphire) to marry me. This friend was excited for me....until she found out she is white. This little fact was revealed to her when I showed her a picture of Sapphire on my phone. 

I tell you no lie. You could feel the tension grow between us. Bashfully, I stuck my phone in my pocket and waited for her to say something. She didn't disappoint. 

Friend: I never thought I would see the day you would be thinking about marrying a WHITE woman!

Me: Neither did I...but it's happening. 

Friend: Why? There are plenty of black women available. 

Me: Actually, no. In my 30 years on this earth I haven't run across this platoon of childless, single, educated, fun, loving, beautiful, in-shape black women...not in Atlanta. I haven't run across this platoon of black lesbians who are comfortable in their own skin, who don't come to the table with a hand full of kids. I'm not willing to keep looking for a needle in a haystack when I have a nice woman who is down for me. I don't care if she is white. She treats me right and I'm happy with her. 

Friend: So, you're settling?

Me: I don't see it that way. I would be settling if I lowered my standards and took up with women who have the characteristics I just described to you. "Sapphire" is warm, friendly, cultured, childless, fun, loving, and beautiful. I asked for a good woman....I ended up with a great woman. I would be a fool to let her go based on her race. For a long time I searched for my ideal "black" woman and I came up empty The same qualities I like in Sapphire I looked for in black women. Over and over again I found myself disappointed. I'm not saying there aren't any black women who fit the bill. I'm saying I haven't met those women and I'm not willing to continue searching for them when I have a good woman. I'm not justifying my relationship with Sapphire. The only justification for it is love....and I'll leave it at that. When I stopped looking at race I finally found what I was looking for and I couldn't be happier. 

Our conversation carried on like that and ultimately ended with me say, "I hope you will find it in your heart to be happy for me. I would hate to lose your friendship...."

Friday, June 26, 2015

Gay Marriage Is Now Legal!!!


Now all I need to do is find a wife!

Sunday, June 7, 2015

The Continuation of Sweat


I have started working on Sweat again. I took a break to regather my thoughts about the series. Now I'm back on my grind. I apologize for the delay. This break was much needed. Look out for the next chapter going soon and the website.

Friday, June 5, 2015

My Life At The Moment...


Here is a summary of what has been happening in my life...

-On May 13, 2015 I was involved in a car accident. Someone hit me hard from behind on highway 285. I have a bad case of whiplash, back pain, neck pain, and my left arm randomly goes numb. I'm currently in physical therapy. 
-I hired a lawyer to go after the bastard that hit me. He gone pay what he owe.
-I'm thinking of asking Sapphire to marry me. 
-Today I bought tickets for me and Sapphire to attend Motown the Musical. No words can express how excited I am. 

That's about it.

I'm Willing To Bet...


In case you haven't been keeping track, WNBA star Brittney Griner married fellow WNBA star Glory Johnson. This happened shortly after it was reported that the two of them came to blows and were arrested for domestic violence. Then yesterday (or the day before) it was reported that Glory Johnson is pregnant. Today it was reported that Brittney Griner is seeking an annulment. So, the chain of events looks like this....

Ass whoppings all around---> Make up/get hitched----> Baby on the way--->Fuck this shit I want out!

How much do you want to bet that Brittney had NOTHING to do with the conception of the baby? How much do you want to bet that she didn't even know her wife was pregnant? How much do you want to bet that her wife was out fucking a man? How much do you want to bet this is why Brittney now wants out?

I can almost imagine Brittney's face upon learning that her new wife is pregnant...

Glory: Baby, I got something to tell you. 

Brittney: What is it boo?

Glory: Baby, I'm pregnant.

Brittney: Say what?!?

Glory: We're going to have a baby!

Brittney: Bitch...we know it ain't mine! Oh hell naw! It's time for you to sign those gawdamn papers!

Next stop for Brittney...

The path of least resistance, least bullshit, and least baggage (i.e.,confusion, bisexuality, out of wedlock children)....

A white woman.
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