Monday, March 23, 2015

I'm Not Interested In This Blog Anymore

I never thought I would feel this way, but I'm not interested in this blog anymore. I guess there is only so much I can write about concerning my life. I've had this blog since 2009, which is longer than I ever planned to have it. Now I think it's time to move on with my life.

This blog is only a snapshot of who I am as a person. Many of you don't know this, but I am an intellectual (or at least I consider myself one). The only thing I love more than women is books. I love to read and write. I want to focus my attention and passion on both. For this reason, I have created a new blog (well, it's still a work in progress) called Black & Bougie.

Though the blog is still a work in progress you can bookmark the site by clicking HERE.

I hope to turn Black & Bougie into a book club. I plan to review books as I'm reading them (and I read a lot). I hope like-minded people will join me in having live book discussions on my site. I really hope this grows to include a forum as well.

Diary of A Black Lesbian won't be abandoned. If/when I have some type of life changing event in my life I will return here to write about it. So, don't unsubscribe. It just so happens that nothing dramatic has happened in my life in weeks. 

Anyway, I hope you all will join me on Black & Bougie and I hope you will participate in our discussions. 

See you on the other side!

Sunday, March 15, 2015

A Community For Black Women

I want to create a massive forum for black women (and not just lesbians). I want it to be a place where I can blog plus the forum. So, it will basically be wordpress combined with Xenforo (forum software). I'm hoping my forum will attract MILLIONS of black women, which will result in MILLIONS from advertising dollars.

To my knowledge, there is only ONE forum that I will have to compete with and that is Lipstick Alley. I looked at that forum. I hate the color scheme of the site. I also think that forum is WHITE owned. From my understanding, the black woman who owned it sold it to a white company (again, that's what I heard...I don't know if it's actually true).

Anyway, I think this idea has great possibility. I'm hoping to even use it to start a book club and book exchange. 

I am trying to come up with a catchy name that represents black women. Do you have any suggestions? If so, drop them in the comment section.

Saturday, March 14, 2015

Thank You Sweet Baby Jesus!!!

Word on the street is Phylicia Rashad will play a lesbian cop on a new TV series. I can't tell you how happy this makes me! We finally get to see a good-looking FEMININE BLACK LESBIAN on television! Thank you sweet baby Jesus. 

I don't give a fuck that she is 66 years old. Phylicia Rashad STILL looks better than some of the twenty-something year olds I see walking the streets of Atlanta. I love this woman. She was the baddest chick in the game in the 1980s. As far as I'm concerned they couldn't have picked a BETTER class act. 

Let us pray that her love interest is also black (I doubt it....but it's good to dream). 

Oh and in case you missed it, Marla Gibbs played a lesbian on Thursday's episode of Scandal....CLICK HERE.

Saturday, March 7, 2015


I have yet to hear any of the so-called black "leaders" speak on this shit! This program aired in 1986 (a year after I was born). It is 29 years old. And guess what? Things are worse now than they were back then! 


Thursday, February 26, 2015


Sapphire is my girlfriend now. 

After she told me she's my secret admirer we had a long talk about race, racism, and us. Our conversation lasted hours. I admitted to her that the reason I broke things off with her is because she's a white woman. She told me she already suspected as much, but she'd grown to love me anyway. She told me she couldn't just let me go and she thought about me all the time despite herself. I admitted she often crossed my mind as well.

When all was said and done we made love....for the first time. 

It was beautiful. 

I know I'm going against the grain. I'm know I'm going against everything I've believed up until this point. However, I want this woman. I've wanted her from the moment I set eyes on her. I'm happy she's mine...

Sunday, February 22, 2015

Cosmetics For Black Women

Today I bought $150.00 in cosmetics. Why? Because I recently became interested in makeup. I've been studying Youtube videos to learn how to apply foundation, eye shadow, blush, etc. I've discovered a lot of skilled and wonderful black women who are GREAT makeup artists....

I know what you're only took damn near 30 years for this to happen, but yes, the feminine tomboy has discovered the wonders of makeup. Honestly, I discovered the wonders of makeup 12 years ago on prom night. I love the way it made me look then and I love the way it makes me look now. I've just been fighting the impulse to become a "girly girl" up until this point.

This might have something to do with the fact that I've been rocking this old fashioned Dorothy Dandridge look with my dreads and I've been getting compliments left and right...

By the way, next month makes 1 year I've been in this lock journey. Congratulate me!

Needless to say I'm feeling real good about myself right now. 

Anyway, I ventured out to a few stores to purchase some makeup. I discovered something that both disappointed me and intrigued me. Generally speaking, black women, no matter our skin tone, don't have a huge variety of products available to us. I seriously struggled to find a foundation that matched my caramel skin tone. I ended up settling for a caramel colored foundation that was advertised under Queen Latifah's Cover Girl line. I was extremely disappointed with the blush and eye shadow that was available. None of it seemed to be quite what I was looking for as a black woman. 

I remember reading something in Black Enterprise Magazine not too long ago about black cosmetics. There was an article that mentioned Fashion Fair is the largest (and perhaps most successful) black cosmetics line on the market. I find that funny because when I think of Fashion Fair I consider it my grandmother's line of cosmetics. I honestly don't know anyone under 50 who uses it. Everybody I know gets their cosmetics from the Mac counter. 

This whole process of finding the right cosmetics got me thinking: Why hasn't anyone come up with better products for black women? Surely this is a goldmine...just waiting for the right person. I began doing my research and I ran across a few very interesting facts that aren't very surprising (i.e., black women spend more money on cosmetics than anyone else). The budding entrepreneur in me snapped to attention. This could be the thing I've been looking for....a product I can actually create!

I want your opinion on the cosmetics industry. I have created a survey. It is completely anonymous. Please take time out of your day to complete it. Click HERE.

Sunday, February 15, 2015

Revealed: My Secret Admirer Is....

Drum roll please....

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