Monday, May 11, 2015

This Was Very Good...


Yesterday I watched this really good lesbian movie called I Can't Think Straight. Sapphire introduced me to the movie and I must say I enjoyed it....not simply because it is a lesbian movie, but because it shows two lesbians of color (they look middle eastern to me) in love. It is nice to see two women who share the same racial background (I think) paired together rather than the usual twist of white supremacy that involves pairing a woman of color with a white woman. This is what I want to see from black lesbian entertainment. I want to see two feminine black women engaged in a functional loving relationship with each other. 

I enjoyed this movie so much that I purchased the book that shares the same title off Amazon. If you wish to watch the movie you can do so for free by heading over to Hulu. I tried to embed the video on my blog but it wouldn't stick. However, here is the link to the video.

Oh and P.S....I changed the comment feature on my blog (Disqus). In order to comment now you must verify your email address, which means you have to register for an account with Disqus. It helps keep the trolls off my site.

Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Proof That I'm Not Crazy...


Take a look at the chart above. This chart comes from a survey that was done in 2012 by American Community Survey. As you can see black lesbians were the most likely group to be raising children at 48% which is damn near double that of white lesbians (25%).

Does anyone want to guess how those children came to be (i.e., one of the lesbians at some point was involved with a man as opposed to the two lesbians planning a family together)?

I'm willing to bet 99% of that 48% comes from one of the lesbians being involved with a man at some point.

Next chart...


Notice how Georgia (the state where I live) is deep in the blue. A closer glance at the chart reveals that in  Atlanta (and surrounding  areas) 79%-100% of African American same sex couples are raising their own children (note "own" children are never-married children under 18 who are sons or daughters of one partner or spouse by birth, marriage (stepchild), or adoption).

This means that women like me who are looking for childless black women are pretty much assed out!

The next time I want to come on MY blog and rant about the fucked up situation in the black community, and in Atlanta, I don't want to hear a damn thing from my haters that says otherwise.

Monday, May 4, 2015

A Rant...

I am officially DONE trying to find my ideal black woman. I'm think I'm officially done with black women period...

In two months I will be thirty years old. In my head, I always imagined I would be married at this point and expecting my first child. Nevertheless, things haven't exactly gone as planned. I spent an entire decade (my twenties) searching for a black woman who isn't fat as hell, doesn't have kids, has her own damn hair, and has some education/business about herself. And over and over again, I have come up empty handed. 

Most of my twenties have been documented on this blog. One look through my archives and you will see I have been bitching and complaining about the same lack of quality since 2009 when I started this blog!

This shit is depressing. 

At first I thought it was just Atlanta. This city has an abundance of hoodrats, obese manly looking studs, and single mothers with fatherless children. However, now I just believe this is the state of the black community period! Every place I look, everything I see, points to the overall degradation of African Americans period. As a collective, we have fallen the fuck off!

Gone are the classy on-point black women. They've been replaced by a generation of habitual bastard makers, ratchets, and "don't-give-a-fuck-how-I-look-when-I-go-out-in-public" hoodrats. 

When I'm out in the streets I see nothing but hoodrats and fat ass studs! Seriously, there are so many studs here that these chicks might as well date each other. 

And what really kills me is these chicks who have had children with deadbeat men expect you (as in single childless folks) to just be cool with having a ready-made family. They expect you to be cool with the reality that the special little place you were supposed to share with your significant other (i.e., parenthood) is also shared by a faceless nigga, who dropped his cum and got the hell out of dodge.

I don't know why in the hell some of these retarded ass black women (both gay and straight) can't see how having out of wedlock children has FUCKED UP the black community, and black relationships. I don't understand why they don't see how someone like me might feel repulsed at the thought of being with them and by extension their children. 

It's gotten to the point now where I'm starting to believe I'm seriously going to end up marrying outside of my race. God knows I've been fighting it, but that appears to be where I'm headed. 

Am I sad about it? Yes, because I honestly want a black family. However, I can't waste another decade waiting for the right black woman to come along. I'm not going to wait. 

I want love. I want happiness. I want a spouse. I want kids. 

Friday, April 3, 2015

Blog Is Open Again...

I received so many emails about NOT making my blog private that I decided to leave it open to the public.

Enjoy!

Wednesday, April 1, 2015

Diary of A Black Lesbian Is Being Made Private


This is just a heads up. Tomorrow at 7:24 PM EST Diary of A Black Lesbian will be made PRIVATE. When I'm ready to come back to this blog I will. In the meantime it will be made private, which means no one will be able to see it but me. 

If you enjoy my commentary, or you just want to keep up with me, I suggest you head over to Black & Bougie. Otherwise, you will just be in the dark until I come back to this blog, which could be quite some type. 

-Lez

Sunday, March 29, 2015

Jump Ship To Black & Bougie!


Black & Bougie is now ready for those of you who are interested in subscribing to my new blog...

I plan to post my first post very soon and I promise it will be thought-provoking. It is something that has been on my mind for YEARS!

If you're interested in subscribing to Black & Bougie go here

If you already have an EMAIL subscription to Diary of A Black Lesbian and you would like me to import your email address over to Black & Bougie I can do that. However, the overwhelming majority of people with email subscriptions would have to agree to it because ALL email address will be exported as a spreadsheet.  

This won't interfere with your email subscription to Diary of A Black Lesbian. It will still be active. 

If this is something you want let me know in the comment section of this post. It is a quick and easy process that requires no work on your part. You will simply start receiving email notifications when I start posting on Black & Bougie.

Monday, March 23, 2015

I'm Not Interested In This Blog Anymore


I never thought I would feel this way, but I'm not interested in this blog anymore. I guess there is only so much I can write about concerning my life. I've had this blog since 2009, which is longer than I ever planned to have it. Now I think it's time to move on with my life.

This blog is only a snapshot of who I am as a person. Many of you don't know this, but I am an intellectual (or at least I consider myself one). The only thing I love more than women is books. I love to read and write. I want to focus my attention and passion on both. For this reason, I have created a new blog (well, it's still a work in progress) called Black & Bougie.

Though the blog is still a work in progress you can bookmark the site by clicking HERE.

I hope to turn Black & Bougie into a book club. I plan to review books as I'm reading them (and I read a lot). I hope like-minded people will join me in having live book discussions on my site. I really hope this grows to include a forum as well.

Diary of A Black Lesbian won't be abandoned. If/when I have some type of life changing event in my life I will return here to write about it. So, don't unsubscribe. It just so happens that nothing dramatic has happened in my life in weeks. 

Anyway, I hope you all will join me on Black & Bougie and I hope you will participate in our discussions. 

See you on the other side!
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